FORGIVENESS

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To forgive is to put aside any negative feeling and desire for punishment by definition, but who is forgiveness for? Is it for self or for the one who is sorry?

Most people would hurriedly say it is for self without understanding. To let go of the desire to punish that person makes it clear that the one who is forgiven gains from being forgiven. The satisfaction that they will receive from knowing that they donโ€™t have to watch out for your next move may bring peace to them but I agree, forgiveness is for self.

When we hold on to a negative feeling, we give it a place in our mind. A place that holds on to the resentment, anger and probably hurtful feeling that needs to be pacified and we visit this place at any slight opportunity we get. We keep dwelling on the hate and plotting the perfect revenge or better ways in which the whole scenario would have played out in our favour. Sometimes we only visit this place when we see the one who offended us and sometimes when we are alone and allow our mind to wander but with each visit our resentment, hurt and anger grows. Most times the one who offended us knows nothing about their offense and go on to live like they have done nothing. They meet new people and live normal lives and you may not come to mind while some may feel that they have paid their dues and owe you nothing.

To hold on to resentment is to give your peace to the one whose apology you are waiting for. It is you giving them a place in your thought and total control of it. Think of all the good things that could have occupied that place and all the beautiful things you could have imagined rather than dwelling on something sad and hurtful and giving them a total control of your mood with their presence by making yourself sensitive to every action they take.

When we forgive we gain our control back, we let go of the pain, resentment and everything negative. We gain back our peace and give our mind space to dwell on important things. We would end up proud that we took control and choose our happiness over the resentment we were not in control of.

Be in control of your mind, forgive for self and enjoy the peace that cannot be controlled by other people.

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14 Comments

  1. Christopher Oneueme
    November 13, 2016
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    O yes to the point, forgiveness is glorious, forgiveness divine, forgiveness gives peace restores love especially when it comes from the heart. It restores relationship and gives joy.

  2. Nwabueze Richard
    November 13, 2016
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    Nice one Charis. I’m impressed. More success to you!

  3. rickwows
    November 13, 2016
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    Forgive and set yourself free. Thanks dear.

  4. tony
    November 13, 2016
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    Yeah!!! On point..๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ™

    • November 14, 2016
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      Thank you๐Ÿ˜Š

  5. Jellof_obianuju
    November 13, 2016
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    Yeah….forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us๐Ÿ™

  6. Kreest
    November 14, 2016
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    Yes!! Forgiveness heals. Nice post sis…

  7. Rachel
    November 14, 2016
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    I’m proud of you.
    Good job

    • November 14, 2016
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      Thank you๐Ÿ˜Š

  8. Freda
    November 14, 2016
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    Yea…. Forgiveness the word.
    Nice one Carysmareeya. I love it

  9. November 16, 2016
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    Nice post “Forgiveness”
    Simply Straight to the point

  10. November 17, 2016
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    Ok…when Chris sent me the link..I was kinda not sure I wanted to read yet another unsure article…but this I swear it’s just so nice..Thanks for addressing that which many fail to see…nice post

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